Some kissing advice, even if you’re a serial-kisser.
1. Good oral hygiene is key. Brush your teeth and use a little mouthwash or mouth spray. Chewing gum and lozenges go a long way, but the best thing to do is to do the work before you’re in the situation where a make-out will happen.
2. Too much mouth spray or too much chap-stick may work against its purpose. The term ‘less is more’ also applies when it comes to kissing itself.
3. Don’t rush! Kissing and making out as an art form is not difficult to learn, and you’ll get far with a little bit of patience.
4. One of the most important things is to read your kissing partner’s body language. Keep an eye out on what signals they are sending, and don’t forget to let them know non-verbally what you think is good and what could be better.
5. You can say so if the kissing doesn’t live up to your expectations. You should be able to tell with just your body language, but if it gets too intense, it is okay to just pull away. If it isn’t intense enough you can always use your hands and pull the other closer to you.
6. In the heat of the moment, there may be a certain amount of body fluids in free flow. It’s okay to pull away and take a break. Your kissing-partner will hopefully notice that they have some spit in their mouth and swallow it. You should consider that there are people out there who get turned on by the free flow of bodily fluids.
7. Start slowly before moving into heavy kissing. Read your partner’s body language and you’ll find your way. A rotating turbo-tongue, or a tongue so far down your throat it tries to choke you is not recommended.
8. If your kissing-partner is unable to read your signals, it’s time to be more direct and have a chat. First tell them what works and what you think is good, then explain gently and with a smile what can be better.
This text has previously been published in the Norwegian magazine Cupido.